An Open Letter To The Self-Proclaimed ‘Nice Guy’ | Thought Catalog

An Open Letter To The Self-Proclaimed ‘Nice Guy’ | Thought Catalog.

Here’s something interesting for all you guys to check out. The article linked above perfectly outlines why your “nice guy” routine hasn’t been working for you. So if you’ve been wondering why the “assholes” and “douche-bags” are always taking your girls, then this is for you.

The article argues that the “jerk’s” success with women doesn’t come from a girl’s desire to be mistreated; rather, they’re successful with women because they know what they want and they have the confidence to go for it – and that’s what appeals to women. They assert themselves and put forth their desires and opinions without fear of judgment or rejection from women. That confidence is what women find attractive and that’s why they go home with that guy instead of you.

The “nice guy” ultimately finishes last because he is just hiding his cowardice under veils of kindness and merely hinting at his desires by showering a girl with attention and compliments. He then expects women to reward him with affection and arousal solely because they were treated decently. On the other hand, the “asshole” wins because he is upfront from the beginning and doesn’t hesitate to express what he wants. He approaches a woman and makes it known that he wants her. He doesn’t hide his desires or intentions under veils of benevolence. He walks up to her with confidence. He takes her home.

Essentially, this is a call for you “nice guys” to man up and stop blaming women for your losses on the dating scene. Instead, build up the balls to see a woman and go for it!