Though the Caveman strives to show neither fear nor angst, he will sometimes find himself in uncomfortable situations which bring about floods of anxiety and panic. One such situation occurs right on the dance floor.
Dancing is an inevitable aspect of social interaction. At some point or another, while you’re going out with friends and meeting new people, you will undoubtedly be required to dance. It is an inescapable fact of life. Why? Because music, the essential ingredient for fun and happiness, is everywhere. Sure, you can have a room full of booze and hot babes, but if the music ain’t bumpin’ then everyone is just standing there awkwardly, not having a good time. The reason for this is simple: people need to dance. Whether it’s to smooth jazz or pulse-pounding house, the body will always have a natural reaction to music. You start tapping your feet, bobbing your head, humming along to the tune and before you know it you’re, technically, dancing.
With dancing being such a common practice amongst the socially adept, it’s bewildering to see how many men are absolutely terrified of it. Walk into any nightclub and see crowds of guys standing around idly, too nervous to ask a girl to become a direct witness to their less-than-impressive dance skills. They hide behind each other, dreading the fact that what stands between them and the women they wish to woo is the long, unforgiving stretch of the dance floor. They refuse to dance because they don’t want to leave themselves open to judgment and ridicule. They are consumed by stress of looking foolish and uncoordinated. They think that the embarrassment of dancing will diminish the fun they are having.
The reality of the situation is that the guys who aren’t dancing aren’t having fun and they especially aren’t making any impressions. They’re so disillusioned by the thought of being bad at it that they refuse to even try to enjoy themselves. The most important thing for you Cavemen to remember is that being bad at something should never stop you from trying it. Being bad at dancing can be easily masked by having fun. Even if you don’t know the steps, just have a good time. If you’re moving, laughing and enjoying yourself, people won’t even notice that you’re off beat… or at least they won’t care because you’re having an awesome night. Women will see that you’re a happy, approachable, confident guy and other men will watch enviously from the sidelines as each beat brings you one step closer to the possibility of some horizontal dancing later on.
Dancing is a mating call – it exudes coolness and demonstrates your ability to be graceful, poised and nimble. It attracts women and shows them that you’re confident enough to approach them, fit enough to withstand a few minutes of uninterrupted movement, and rhythmic enough to pull off a few impressive moves in the bedroom. While there will be pros (and wannabes) on the dance floor, you don’t have to be this guy in order to seduce your partner.
Just remember to keep things cool, smooth and simple – no jumping off the walls or flipping or forcing everyone to stop dancing and form a circle around you. Avoid all variations of twerking, twirling, and tip-toeing. A properly synchronized two-step and shoulder bounce, or some moves from this guy, should be enough to get you through the night.
What I cannot stress enough is to treat dancing like the fun social activity that it is. You’re out there to have a good time, so make the experience enjoyable for both you and your partner. If you make a mistake and bump into someone, just laugh it off and keep dancing. Discomfort and fear will be infinitely more noticeable than a missed step. Even if you feel totally out of your element, make sure the girl feels comfortable with you. If she feels safe in your arms, then that’s where she’ll want to stay.
Only two things in life are guaranteed: one day you will die and one day you will have to dance; so just get out there and do it. Walk up to a girl, ask her to dance and let yourself have as much fun as this guy.